6 Conversations About Work That Every Couple Should Have
While everyone agrees that it is important to keep the professional and personal separate, the fact is that we work long hours, it is impossible to not talk to our partners about the office.
Avoiding it can have serious consequences for your relationship. Amanda Augustine, a career expert, says that if you aren’t open with your partner about work and how it affects you, you can put unnecessary stress on your relationship.
Your partner can’t read your mind. “Failing to communicate can quickly lead you to misunderstandings and resentment, which can seriously harm your relationship,” he says.
These conservations should be maintained on a regular basis in order to avoid any negative impact on your relationship.
1. The one with the schedules
My partner and I travel almost every week to visit one of our clients from Monday through Thursday afternoon. While this means our time together is limited to weekends, it doesn’t mean we don’t think about each other throughout the week. We set aside time every night to listen to one another’s voices, even if it is only for ten seconds, and we do this without fail.
It doesn’t matter what your relationship dynamics are, it is important to coordinate your schedules. It may sound silly, but you will feel more secure and satisfied with your relationship if you know that you have a time set aside to chat. This helps to foster a spirit of cooperation, which is vital for all couples.
He explains that by working together on the day-to-day logistics, you can keep your house running smoothly even if one or both of them have a busy work week. “Never think of one job as more important than the other. Instead, you should focus on the details and be as committed as possible.
This could be changing who picks up your children, calls the vet or makes reservations for your next vacation.
2. Satisfaction in your job
Your partner’s career is in your hands, no matter how long they have been together or how well they know each other. Talking about his ideas and resumes, as well as being an attentive listener during stressful times, can all help you. Executive Coach Elizabeth Pearson says it’s important to discuss your partner’s satisfaction level and if they are happy doing what they do.
He continues, “Your spouse should feel you are there for him and that you support his decisions regarding his career.” If you feel pressured to keep a job that you don’t like, for the sake of earning a salary or supporting the family, don’t be surprised to see signs of resentment toward each other.
Encourage your partner to be open and sincere in acknowledging their contributions. This shows that you are committed to their happiness at work as well as at home.
3. Stressful periods are a sign of stress
Each sector is unique and each has its own dynamics. It can be difficult to understand your partner’s workflow and how she feels stressed. Don’t be afraid to ignore signs of stress and anxiety if you don’t want to be mistaken. In the reverse situation, your partner will not be able help you if you don’t give them any clues about why you are stressed.
He says, “You don’t have to share details, especially if it is confidential. But, it is important that you communicate your feelings and what you can expect from your partner in the next weeks.” Your partner will be more prepared to assist you if she is more involved in your job and its effects.
Let your partner know if you notice something strange about him. Most of the time, this gesture will make you feel better.
4. Your level of support
“Is there something I should be doing that you think is important to you, in order to help you further your career?” Ask your partner this question if you haven’t already. Pearson states that asking this question shows you care about your partner’s professional growth. If you don’t see your partner every week, it is okay to not blame him. As long as you communicate your needs regularly, you can’t blame him.
5. The work is at its limits
We always switch off our phones when we have dinner with our partner. It doesn’t really matter how quick the dinner is or how long it takes to finish. We don’t have to finish our meals, but we do spend the remaining time chatting, catching-up, and connecting. We also try to disconnect as much from work as possible during weekends. Although we don’t always succeed, we find ourselves happier the more we prioritize it.
6. The one that has the latest news about work – good and bad
You must know your partner’s boss to have a strong and meaningful relationship. Know your staff, the customers you love and hate. Augustine says that couples should be informed about their spouse’s professions. They should be the first person you call or text when you need to vent.
Your partner should be there for you to celebrate wins and loses. He explains that this is especially important if the partner anticipates they will need to search for a new job soon. It is best to share bad news at work with your partner, especially if it involves a layoff. Do not hide details. It will only cause more stress when you are in need of support.
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