All right, people of Oklahoma. We have got to do something to stop Senate Bill 1433 – AKA “The Personhood Bill” –  from passing through our great state’s House of Representatives. Here’s what we need to do. We need to write AND call our Representatives. BOTH write AND call.

The bill passed the state Senate yesterday in a 43 – 8 vote. Next, it will go to a House committee, after March 1st. We can stop this bill in the House committe. But you have to tell your Representative that you don’t like it, and you want her or him to vote against it. If you know why this bill is no good for us, you can stop reading now and call the capitol: 1.800.522.8502.

In case you want to read this poorly written, vague piece of poop (it’s VERY brief): SB 1433.

If you don’t know how you feel about this bill and you feel like reading more, here is a quick list of reasons why this bill is a bad thing (in my humble, completely objective opinion).

1. HEALTH. The good ladies of Oklahoma need to keep our right to basic, safe, preventative birth control completely legal. Even if a couple uses a condom EVERY SINGLE TIME they have vaginal hetero intercourse, sometimes the condom breaks. Then she or he has to go get a back-up method of birth control. Usually it’s PLAN B, or some other form of emergency contraceptive. THIS IS NOT AN ABORTION PILL. This is basically a high dose of oral contraception. But if this bill passes, this form of birth control could become illegal. Not OK. Very scary. We are trying to avoid becoming pregnant in the first place, and we don’t need to make it more difficult.

2.  STATE IMAGE. Seriously, if you want to attract young, smart, professional women and men to Oklahoma, don’t go inserting laws into the bedroom and make having sex here so risky.

3. SANITY. Thinking that a zygote needs rights and protections like a tax-paying citizen is insane. It’s nothing more than professing morality loudly, not out of concern for another’s life and health and happiness, but for personal gain. People actin’ all holier-than-thou.

A special note to men: we really need your help on this one. We need you to talk about it at work. We need you to call and write letters. We need to show the author of this bill, who happens to be a man, that Oklahoma men are taking responsibility and owning the fact that they play a part in reproduction. Husbands, brothers, boyfriends, baby daddies, co-workers, fathers… please?

A special note to Republicans and social conservatives: I come from a politically split family, and I’m registered as an Independent. I really don’t think this is a partisan issue, but the fact is that Oklahoma’s Republican majority is championing this bill. To me, and my Libertarian tendencies, this is about government intrusion. I know you were all pissed when Wikipedia went down and the government was trying to censor the internet. I know you get mad about TSA pat-downs. Now apply the same back-off logic to your/ our internal organs. It is nothing less than hypocritical to decry big government and at the same time try to restrict reproductive freedom. Trying to control citizens’ bodies is paternalism at its worst.

If you want to go the extra mile, you can call the author of this bill, Senator Brian Crain and express yourself to him or his secretary: 405.521.5620.

We have until the beginning of March to do this, folks!

Together!

Spring

 

Okie Stories

January 12, 2012

I haven’t been blogging very much lately, but I have been writing and busy in other ways. Recently, This Land Press published a story I wrote about the time me and 2 of my friends killed, dressed, skinned, and butchered a goat. Check it out HERE! It’s a reworking of the story I related here on Progress on the Prairie a while back. Also, a very talented journalist named Abby interviewed my friends and me about the killing experience and our personal views on eating meat.  She made a nice audio piece — like a mini This American Life episode — out of our interview, and you can listen to it here.

Here’s to Okie stories!

Spring

Made a Pillow, Gave it Away

November 19, 2011

I made a pillow the other day. One side has a screen-printed shape of the great state of OKLAHOMA, in state-flag blue.

The other side has Seminole patchwork that my former mother-in-law gave me to use in a project, and so I did.

I gave it to my ex-husband/ the father-of-my-child/ friend for his birthday. He liked it. I’m glad.

Spring

Every year I am excited, when the Oklahoma weather gets chilly as it is inclined to do in November, to break out my scarves. A scarf is a perfectly practical accessory. But what about silk scarves, I often wonder? They don’t really add warmth. Or do they? And some of them look like they may reek of mothballs. But some of them are absolutely beautiful. And they are…here it comes…so silky. Of all the estate sales and garage sales and thrift stores I’ve rummaged in my lifetime, I never pass by the overflowing and often overlooked bin of silk scarves without touching. And that is exactly what I did today at an estate sale in midtown Tulsa. Brick mansion in Maple Ridge. Everything 65% off. Gray silk Liberty of London scarf with colorful fishing lures on it. Liberty of London! Fishing lures! It was meant for me; tell me it wasn’t:

liberty of london scarf

And so I begin my silk scarf collection. But how does one wear a silk scarf without looking prissy or stuffy? I want to be a smart-looking lady with a fine and diverse collection of scarves for my children and my friends’ children and our children’s children to see and touch. But I don’t want to look like a snob or Fred from Scooby Doo. I think I will keep only the most wonderful scarves, and I will keep them all smelling nice, like the Medici Cocoa natural, artisan-crafted perfume that my friend Tara makes in her very own home. And then when I die, my scarves will tell people about my interests and my character. People shopping the selling of my estate will say: “Oh! A silk scarf with fishing lures! My, what an odd mix of rural and intellect this saucy lady must have possessed!” They will. Then they’ll see this picture I tried to take of myself wearing my scarf:

And they’ll giggle. But one of the people, probably a bookish girl who grew up on acreage, will see the scarf and she will not be able to carry on living without buying it for 65% off 5 dollars. And she’ll love it and consider it the beginning of her silk scarf collection, just like me. And just like me, she’ll figure out a way to work it into her wardrobe. And she’ll live happily ever after.

She will. Just like me.

Spring

My Daughter and I went to see Dolly Parton in concert Saturday night. We took a long while to get ready, about an hour and a half. I polished our boots with my dad’s old shoe polish, and the smell of the leather combined with the polish brought up memories I thought I had lost:

My dad’s boots on the left were custom-made in Texas. Always. He had all of his boots custom-made because not only did he have small, wide feet, but he also had big preferences. For example, he preferred to have a belt buckle that matched his boots exactly. So when he had his boots made, he had a matching belt buckle made, too. The quilted leathers: each individual square is made from a different hyde and specially dyed. Cow, snake, ostrich, alligator, blue, brown, black, tan. That was success to him: being able to pay an American crafter a decent wage to create unique items, and lookin’ good.

The concert was wonderful. Dolly opened to “Light of a Clear Blue Morning.” I cried. This was the song that carried me through my first major break-up and relocating with my daughter to a new city by myself when I was 24 and she was 4. The memories that a song can unearth are as strong as a woman giving birth, I think.

The rest of the concert was equally great: I thought about my mom, my dad, my childhood home, the beautiful rural landscape of southeastern Oklahoma where I grew up, people workin’ hard with their hands, where nobody I knew had a cubicle job. I thought about love and loss, life and compassion, musical traditions, community and friends, growing old, and happiness. I realized I have had plenty of happiness. And I look forward to plenty more.

And I realize that Dolly Parton can turn me into a sappy pile of sentimentality.

And that’s okay,

Spring

P.S. Here’s a beautiful version of “Light of a Clear Blue Morning” by the Wailin’ Jennys: listen.

Take Your Girls Camping

September 11, 2011

Take your girls camping. All you need is a backyard. You can borrow mine if you don’t have one. Try teaching them to build a fire. Check for current burn bans. Let them gather wood of different sizes. Get your fingernails dirty, and let your hands get scratched by errant twigs. Let them wad up newspaper or strips of grocery sacks or all those pages of homework (busy work). Teach them useful, exciting skills like how to light a match. The world won’t burn up if you supervise their playing with matches. They might burn a finger. So? Good.

Ignore fear-mongers who tell you it’s dangerous. Their message is tempting. But you and your girls will be happier and stronger if you don’t buy the extra worry.

roasting marshmallows

Roast marshmallows. Or pears. Or corn. Or hot dogs. Pitch a tent.  Make a pallet. Watch the stars. Tell the moon she’s beautiful and good night.

Spring

Governor Mary Fallin, first female Governor of this state, signed 2 anti-abortion bills into law today. They are strict. From the Tulsa World article:

The first bill is called the “Pain-Capable Unborn Child Protection Act” and is based on the premise that a fetus can experience pain after 20 weeks of gestation. It includes an exemption for abortions performed when the life of the mother is at risk or if there is a risk of physical impairment of a “major bodily function.”

This bill also seeks prison time for doctors who perform abortion after 20 weeks. If you were a doctor in Oklahoma, would you just stop offering abortion services altogether considering the irrational vitriol aimed at your practices? I wouldn’t either, but I’m afraid many more will, as many already have. Oklahoma has 6 abortion providers. 6. In the whole state. And that was in 2008. Oklahoma women already have an extremely difficult time finding safe, private birth control services. 96% of Oklahoma counties have NO abortion provider.

And, as if we didn’t have enough anti-choice legislation (SEE), now we have more. And now we have a woman telling all the other women in the state that they don’t know what’s best for them. What a self-hating, SCUMbag. What do all these anti-choice politicians want? To make abortion totally illegal? Um, yes:

“Abortion is currently legal in Oklahoma, but I believe a majority of Oklahomans would vote to eliminate elective abortions if they were given the chance to do so,” Rep. Dennis Johnson (R-Duncan) said.

All this ignorance grossing you out? Me too.

Spring

The very best thing about a Saturday morning is drinking a whole pot of coffee one cup at a time, getting all caffeined up to complete my chore list do nothing. This morning, I drank from a naked lady mug my friend gave me:

Fishs Eddy mug

The second best thing about this particular chilly mid-winter Saturday morning, is getting to watch hours of local public television programming, starting at about 7:45 a.m. OETA is Oklahoma’s statewide public media source that provides educational and public television programming to Oklahomans statewide. On any Saturday morning, an Oklahoman like myself might be educated in such areas as wire welding and winter heat exhaustion on the show Sunup, cutting quilt shapes and sewing quilt pieces together on the show Fons and Porter’s Love of Quilting, and more sewing and how to make ‘expressive sweatshirts’ on Sewing with Nancy. Nancy can refurbish a sweatshirt like nobody else. She can cut the sleeves off to make a vest, and she sews stretchy headbands (!) on the front of the sweatshirt for decoration.

If none of this programming sounds interesting to you, I don’t know what is wrong with you. But I’ll give you ideas for spicing up a Saturday morning watching OETA anyway. You could:

1. Stroke your naked lady mug while people talk about sewing.

2. Stroke a real naked lady if you have one nearby, one that wants to be stroked.

3. Get naked and stroke yourself. This suggestion is for the ladies and the gentlemen.

I hope that my Saturday morning Oklahoma public television research has been helpful for you all.

Until next time,

Spring

Sunday. Drove to visit one of my favorite high school teachers, Richard Billingsley. He taught Art at Holdenville High School for a long time, decades methinks. People in Holdenville had an art show for him. Even though he isn’t really into art shows, he’s a great artist and an entertaining conversationalist. People like him. People admire his work. People want to be around him and his art. I am one of those people. Here’re some of his paintings:

richard billingsley art

richard billingsley art

richard billingsley art

All of these paintings deserve better photographs.

But still,

Spring

Muslim in Oklahoma

November 18, 2010

*This is a guest post by my friend. She’s beautiful, generous, smart, hard-working, brave and Muslim. She lives in Tulsa, Ok.* 

I am an American. I am a woman. I am a Muslim. And I am so much more.  With growing anti-Muslim sentiments and Islamophobia , now more than ever, I’m realizing that my actions aren’t used just to judge who I am as a person, but suddenly my actions represent Muslims everywhere.  Lately, my non-Muslim friend’s approach me almost daily with questions like, “Saira, did you see the news about the proposed Koran burning?  Ho do you feel about the controversy over the “ground zero mosque?  What’s Sharia law?”  While I was immersed in my tight knit Muslim community growing up, I’m realizing faster than ever that most Oklahomans aren’t likely to share an intimate relationship with a single Muslim.  A recent TIME magazine poll found that only 44% of respondents have a favorable impression towards Muslims.  Of those respondents, 62% said they don’t personally know a Muslim American.  That’s more than half of Americans who view Muslims either negatively or with indifference.  Because so many Oklahomans know little about their Muslim neighbors, I agreed when my sweet co-worker Spring asked me to write a piece on being Muslim in Oklahoma for her blog.  Though Spring asked me several questions, for the sake of keeping your attention, I’m just going to try to explain the existing atmosphere surrounding a Muslim in Oklahoma.

One of my first ‘ah-ha, some people really don’t understand me‘ moments of being Muslim in Oklahoma came several years ago when my family stopped at a gas station in Small Town, Oklahoma. Coming straight from a cultural event, instead of my usual blue jeans and frilly top, I was dressed in traditional Pakistani clothing washing my hands in the restroom when a middle-aged woman approached me inquiring about my religion. When I responded by saying I was Muslim she asked, “Is it true your religion believes in killing people?” Stunned by the words just spoken to me, I tried to explain how this wasn’t remotely true, to no avail. Fast forward to present day, and the fear of Muslims remains alive and growing. 

Unless you ignore the news and didn’t visit the polls last Tuesday, you have probably heard about the deceitfully written State Question 755 on our state’s ballot.  For me, this vote represents the overwhelming fear of Muslims and immigrants that’s plaguing our state. In a nutshell, SQ 755, also known as the “Save Our State Amendment” or as talk show host Rachel Maddow put it, “Save Oklahoma from Muslims Amendment,” would ban the use of Sharia law and international law when making legal decisions. Sharia is an Islamic moral and ethical code that Muslims are to use as a guide to live their lives and practice their religion.  The full elucidation of Sharia is vague even to many Muslims.  On November 2nd, the good voters of Oklahoma, a whopping 70%, voted yes on SQ 755. This state question is particularly disturbing because Sharia law was never an actual threat in the United States, much less in Oklahoma.  It seems that 70% of voting Oklahomans have forgotten the good ole first amendment that already “prohibits the making of any law respecting an establishment of religion.” It’s this amendment that established the separation of church and state in both federal and state law.  Writer, Reza Aslan, put it into perspective best when he said that “considering that no judge in the United States has cited Sharia in a legal case…this is a bit like passing a federal law banning Americans from riding unicorns.”

This amendment has less to do with the looming threat of Islam and more to do with running a political campaign based on fear, feeding on voter’s paranoia of Islam and immigrants. It felt like another way for politicians to get voters to the polls out of fear.  Let’s take the writer of the question, former OK State House Representative Rex Duncan, who referred to the SQ as a “pre-emptive strike” and who after refusing to accept a gifted copy of the Quran for Oklahoma’s Centennial celebration is quoted as saying that, “most Oklahomans do not endorse the idea of killing innocent women and children in the name of ideology.”

To this, I say, most Muslims share the same belief. 

As for SQ 755, luckily, a federal judge suspended the amendment for now, to which many have responded with “it was the will of the people.” But just because the majority votes for a certain amendment doesn’t necessarily mean it is just. It was the same “will of the people” that once supported segregation in the 1960s and created the Jim Crow Laws.

To be fair, I do believe that a lot of sensible people who voted for the law probably didn’t understand the complete implications of it. Nevertheless, it’s a terrifying thought that suddenly my faith is being misrepresented; so much so, that by accusing our President of being Muslim, we are somehow humiliating him. As if being Muslim would make one unfit to run a country.

I wish every American knew that every time an extremist Muslim participated in any act of violence or spoke any word of hate in the name of Islam, they knew that that person does not represent me, that person does not represent my ideals, and that person surely does not represent my faith.

While Islamophobia is growing in our state, that doesn’t mean that my experience as a Muslim in Oklahoma has been an entirely negative one.  For the most part, I have been saved from being on the front lines of hate.  This, I believe, has a lot to do with being a Muslim that doesn’t wear a scarf and therefore, because my outward appearance is not apparently Muslim (which is proof that Muslims come in all shapes and forms), people tend to know me as a person, before they know immediately of my faith. I’ve seen countless people from all religions show their solidarity and support when mosques have been threatened and vandalized.  I’ll never forget the kindness I felt when as a 9th grader, after the tragic 9/11 attacks, I was called into the councilors office to make sure no students were harassing me. Or when my roommate of four years and good friend Katie, defended Islam to some of her relatives when they were skeptical of Muslims and went out of her way to point out that her Muslim roommate was “one of the kindest people she knew.” Or when as a student at OU, hundreds attended interfaith events to promote tolerance and foster understanding.  It warmed by heart when my co-workers this year fasted from sunrise to sunset to share my experience of Ramadan.

The point of all this is so that everyone knows that Muslims really aren’t that scary. We have a tendency to fear the unknown. So get to know someone who is Muslim. Give them a chance before you believe this country is not theirs and that their religion is not as peaceful as yours.  My race and religion makes me a minority in this country, but I am and feel as American as the next person. Isn’t that part of the charm of being an American? That this country was established to escape the persecution of minorities. That we don’t all fit into a narrow description. 

If you’re still unsure of Muslims, or simply just don’t know enough about them, then let’s grab coffee, share ideas, and mingle. You’ll probably just find out hat the Beatles are my all time favorite band, I have an unexplainable love for the Harry Potter series, Jersey Shore is one of my guilty pleasures, and my day feels incomplete without French fries. But mostly you’ll just find out how ordinary I am.

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