Does Giving Birth Hurt?
February 5, 2010
I have a big favor to ask of all of you parents out there. Will you help me answer the question I was asked a few months ago? I have a pregnant friend who asked me a simple enough question: ”Does childbirth hurt?” But I was honestly stumped. I didn’t know how to answer; believe it or not, this is one question I have never been asked and never even thought about all that much.
I kept promising my friend that I would give her a response, but I wanted to form a thoughtful, honest, personal response. But, I got so caught up in how this question should be answered that I haven’t yet answered it. I thought about what I should say in order to calm her fears, in order to empower her, in order to set the record straight for myself, in order to be a good mom, in order to be a good feminist, in order to be a good friend. But I still haven’t answered her question.
I read what other people say in response to that question. Like Gisele and other celebrity moms, if you wanna call them people. I read what pregnancy Bibles had to say about the matter. I re-read childbirth scenes from novels, like my favorite in Tracks by Louise Erdrich. But I still didn’t answer her question.
Now a few months later, she is in her third trimester and closer than ever to giving birth and answering her own question, and I still haven’t answered that damn question.
Until now. My answer is in the comment section, but I still need your help. I’m endlessly afraid that my answer isn’t sufficient, so if you don’t mind doing me and my pregnant friend a favor by leaving us an answer in the comment section??? We would be forever grateful
Spring & Pregnant Friend